A Vow is a Vow

With my Daddy!

If you are married and have been for more than a few weeks you have probably argued with your spouse. As much as we love our spouses it is a fact of marriage that there will be disagreements. There will be some times of discord. There will also be the major times when Satan is throwing you everything he has and trying to get you to disregard the vows that you made on your wedding day.

A wedding vow is not just a few words you say that sound pretty. It is not just a whim. A vow is an unbreakable promise. It is a very serious matter. Satan has done a marvelous job convincing people of the opposite. Marriage is disposable these days. If things are getting tough Satan says "Why are you sticking around? Divorce is pretty easy in America. Save yourself and get out."

Give your marriage time and you will probably experience a true testing of your commitment. I know that we have in my marriage. It isn't easy. The easy way out is to say "I'm through", but before you do that, take a step back and take time to seek God and to seek His help. Look at your family and decide what is in the best interests of my family?

Now, if you are in an abusive situation I'm all for seeking help and escaping the abuse. If it is due to marital unfaithfulness, a feeling of growing distance between you and your spouse, or you just don't feel the same "spark" you did in the beginning, those are all things that can be worked through. Both spouses have to want to work through them though.

There was a reason why you married him/her. You can regain those old feelings. Yes, it may be hard. Yes, there may be a LOT to forgive and move past. But it is possible. Yes, people who know the situation may say "Why did he stick around? After what she did, I'd be out of there so fast." Yet, what a testimony you would have by sticking around and saying "Yes, I was hurt by what He did. But together we reconciled, we gave our selves and our marriage to God. We put His will and our children in the forefront and now our marriage that was once sitting on the sand getting eroded by the waves is rooted in the bedrock."

Today as we celebrate the fathers in our lives let us not forget to celebrate our Heavenly Father, who gave us life, gives us peace and is there watching over us, our children and our marriages. Let this Father's Day also be a day where you reflect on your vows, where you dedicate yourself anew to our Heavenly Father. Make it a a day of marital and family celebration.

-JLP-

A personal thank you to my Dad who set (and continues to live) a great Christian life. He loves my mom and he loves us and I have so many wonderful memories with him and look forward to many more and to being there as Papa and Punky jr. make memories together. Also, to my husband- I love you Babe and I love watching you with our daughter. She is so blessed to have you as her daddy.